As I was riding my bike last night, pondering, I had some thoughts that I clumsily told my wife when I got home. I thought I'd try here though, to clearly state something that I think is important.
There's a way of thinking, and I don't want to call it a "common misconception" because maybe it is the truth for some, that you can/should put your family life on hold while you move up in your career. Or someone who had a child or got married young may look back at their life and think that they could have been so much more successful if they had only not had that kid or married that person.
I admit that I've had the latter thought before at times, like where could I be if I was 'Single Pete'. But last night I realized that I was wrong.
I got married to Ash at 23 and we had Christian when I was 25, so we weren't babies having babies, but we were relatively young for my peer group. And I've thought in the past that if I didn't have the responsibilities of being a husband, dad, co-money-provider/ co-bill-payer, that I could have more time to write, more chances to network, more time to produce sketch comedy videos and take UCB classes and such. Which is true, sure, but...
Having less time to devote to writing has made me a better writer. 'Single Pete' would have the luxury of being able to dawdle, write a couple pages here and there. 'Busy Pete', I'll refer to my current self as, has to be laser-focused every writing session. Before my writing sessions were watered down lemonade, today they're frozen concentrate. Take those babies out of the freezer, add water (or booze) and start cranking.
But besides that, the support that Ash has given me has been the single most propelling thing in my writing life. She's read all my stuff. She's my biggest cheerleader. She's believed in me when I haven't. I wouldn't be about to have Happenstances published without her.
In my life, being married young-ish and growing with Ash has been the best thing. And Christian is a constant source of joy, and often times hilarious anecdotes.
So, thanks Ash and Christian.